It’s not often that I go on a date with my husband. With two kids, sporadic childcare and crazy schedules, finding the time is not easy. But this past Saturday night was our designated date night. And we went to one of my favorite local restaurants.
Now, I might add that I live, year-round, in the super seasonal community of Montauk, NY so Saturday night summertime is not the ideal time to stray from home if you want a quiet night. But I was hell bent on savoring this particular frisee calamari salad so we made our way to The Harvest knowing darn well that it would be slammed.
Aiming for the bar, because we realized that that there wasn’t a chance in hell that a table would be available, after 20 minutes we were in luck. I am all for sitting at the “drink counter” but never again on a summer night in Montauk. The restaurant was rock solid from food to service, but the customers were something to be desired.
For almost two hours my husband and I “enjoyed” time together while we listened to patrons demand service. “Gimme a bottle of wine.” “Get me a beer.” “I want a vodka martini.” “I need a glass of water.” “Hey you, a beer?” Not one “please” or “thank you.”
I am sorry, but I live in a community where people are kind and thoughtful. Then summer hits and many of those who enter our small fishing village do so with entitlement. And it’s utterly nauseating.
I found this very simple essay on saying those magic words on Whyzz, a great website that offers expert guidance on how to answer kids’ many questions. Apparently way too many missed this very important newsflash—saying “please” is kind and polite; and saying “thank you” expresses appreciation.
Those in the food service business, or any service business for that matter, bust their butts day in and day out to cater to others. In other words, being courteous and offering gratitude goes a long way.
My husband and I tirelessly remind our boys to look people in the eyes, always offering a “please” and “thank you”. As parents, it is our job to teach them this behavior. If you offer “nourishment”, you will get it in return (well, most of the time). So, I ask you to please reflect on your life and travel forward with mindfulness always being kind to others. Thank you!